Every person has the right to privacy. Its a choice to let other know your thoughts and feelings openly. There isn't such a thing as mind readers....or so they say anyway, the jury is still out in my head on that one.
Why is it so important that we communicate only to have our views, thoughts and feelings distorted into some fantastical way that isn't in the same zip code as what we meant it to be? Why do other hear what we say and then turn it around to be something exactly oppisite of what was meant? (I know I repeated myself there, I did it on purpose, just letting your know that don't need the messages relating to my writing ....again:o))
Back to the subject...
Nobody else can live in your head. They don't know your thoughts until you share them. That is your privacy policy, don't talk, don't share, don't tell and God help you, don't be honest about those very things!
I am so tired of living in my own head. Seriously, tired of it. Its so stupid to try to explain the inner workings of my head that it gets quite treacherous. So why do people still try? I am totally confused there. I can be a royal pain in the butt, granted but get me on a roll about what I'm passionate about and LOOK OUT!
The other day my hubby was using the grinder to work on his train table lake. It skipped and caught his knee slicing it open and deep. I proceeded to fix him up and catch him falling off the toilet (passed out on me) from the pain or just because it was so traumatizing to him. I tried to tell him what needed to be done, he didn't listen; I tried to fix him up and of course he does it himself with minor assistance from me. All I could think was "Excuse me Mr. Independant! I DO have a medical degree; I DO have first aide certification; and heres the real shocker...I have SEEN WORSE!". Whatever.
Anyway (Can you tell I have had a glass of wine already?). The point is when do you think its wise to share every single detail of your head with someone? Is there a point that should just be a given and those around you should just shut up and listen? What ever happened to active listening skills anyway, why do people not use them? I try to, but I admit that when someone is rambling on about "this is this and that is that" or "he said.....and she said ....." I don't freaking care and I am making my grocery list. Time is important people, listen up and cut to the chase. My private thoughts are my own, unless the government has implanted that thing in all of our heads to control us, get out of my head with your ideas and thoughts......
I have co-workers like this. Not a single thought passes through their heads without having to share it with the world. I've found they just want attention. People who are more introverted keep their thoughts to themselves and are generally more intriguing and well-liked. The BEST liked people are those who listen and show a genuine interest in others, rather than forcing themselves on everyone around them.
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