I have stated in a bulletin that I read several blogs of those not currently on my friends list. I read and read, I understand and evaluate the blogs as they pertain to my own life experiences. Sometimes though, things just don't sit right with me.
Recently I have been enjoying some blogs about relationships, cheating, raising children, etc. This led me to a question within myself and my own moral values.
If your partner tells you they find another person attractive, no wait not just tell you once....repeatedly. If they tell you that there was just something "different" about the person that "caught their eye"....what would you think? How do you think you would handle such information from your committed partner?
Personally I have this rule, I don't really care if you look at the "menu", but I don't need to know every "dish" on there, lol, furthermore, I DO care where the appetite comes from and I won't be "feeding" ANYONE that can't get a hunger going at home, COOK FOR YOUR DAMEND SELF! LOL
Is it just me or are there others out there like me that don't really notice the oppisite sex while they are involved with someone? Seriously, I tend to not notice flirting even unless its pointed out to me by someone! I think I'm naive to think that way but why would I notice someone elses bs if I'm involved with a partner already? I admit that at the end of the relationship with Shawn that I was tempted at that point however he had been cheating on me, beating me and otherwise not involved in the relationship for years, yet I was faithful.
I understand that men are typically more visual and that pretty girls get attention. I am totally ok with that. What I am NOT ok with is it being put into my face, to be compared to that person with no name or issues with my partner...HELLO! of course she's perfect....shes NOT with you! lmfao
I dunno, I know that there has to be others like me. The way I was raised was this "a man with lust in his eye has no love in his heart" is that just to much?
Here's another one just like you. Like you, when I'm in a realtionship, I don't notice other guys flirting with me - although I have to admit to not noticing when I'm not in a relationship as well. I also don't seem to notice other ''hot'' guys when I'm with someone either, I'm just not that interested, I guess.
ReplyDeleteWe wouldn't be human if we didn't look at other people, but if he's going to do it, then he better not be openly looking when he's actually walking down the street with me.
We all notice the opposite sex...but it's how MUCH we notice the opposite sex that's an issue. For me, it's weird because I was single for a while so I became conditioned to looking. I still find myself looking more out of programming than anything else, but I think of it more as admiring a painting.
ReplyDeleteIt's disrespectful to talk about finding others attractive in front of your spouse UNLESS he/she is okay with it. The spouse needs to speak up and say she/he doesn't want to hear about this. And if a particular woman keeps coming up over and over from your husband, watch out. That's pretty much the general rule about it I've heard from men. One HUGE telltale sign that something's going on is him bringing a particular woman up over and over. Once is no biggie -- we're all going to notice other people and sometimes men are just stupid and don't know any better -- but if it's behavior that seems almost like a schoolyard crush...it very well COULD be.
I think I'm naive to think that way but why would I notice someone elses bs if I'm involved with a partner already?
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