More About Me

I would like to take this opportunity to dangle my feet off the dock and share a little about my life with you, come and sit, get to know me a bit, take a walk through my garden smell the roses, rub the herbs and please don't pull any weeds (some of those weeds are pretty and functional too).

I have lived my entire life in Northwest Lower Michigan. We say we live in the pinky area of the mitt just to give you an idea. The town used to be very small and country, actually the town I grew up in on an old dirt road was a farming community and town was a half an hour ride away.

Growing up in the country I was one of two daughters and the oldest of all the grandkids, cousins and what not. My grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, cousins and the occaisional "adopted" family members played major roles in my rearing.

When I was 4 my little sister was born and my life ended. My Uncle began molesting me and at the time I thought it just meant he thought I was special. In my heart of hearts I believe he would have never gotten to me had my mother not been distracted by the new baby, but blame never seems to get me anywhere, it is what it is and its over now. The molestation continued until I was 14 because nobody would stop it but me at that time. They knew, I know they knew because I told.

As an adult I had a series of bad relationships that ulitmately led me into the court system testifying against my abusive ex-husband. He was convicted twice of domestic violence against me with the final sentence falling extrememly short of justice. But he is gone and has been out of my face for a while now. Thankfully.

I have 4 bilogical children, 2 step children, 2 daughters that call me dad because I was best friends with their mom and we basically raised our kids together as co-parents and one more daughter that I like to call "of my heart", there is one more daughter that is an ex-step but we remain very close. From these fine children 6 are adults, one is nearing adulthood frighteningly fast and three remain in the home for a minimum of 6 more years. I have been blessed with 5 grandkids (2 boys and 3 girls) and love them all to pieces!

I married my friend of 10 years a couple of years ago and I would like to say its been easy but I just can't. He was a widower with a little girl living with him full time, this little girl lost her mom at a very young age to a drunk driver. This is still something we deal with daily as she tries to sort it out with her age appropriate rationalizations. For the most part our relationship is strong and healthy, its nothing like I have ever experienced in my entire life and I am very thankful to have him with me during this journey.

On a very personal level (like it hasn't been already..sigh) I have been sick for about 7 years with uncontrollable fatigue, headaches, joint pain, body pain, etc. I have undergone treatments and tests that have only recently allowed for a diagnosis....I have Lupus. Those three words were harder to write then I was molested, thats unnerving.

Well there you have it, me in a nutshell. I of course will probably inundate you with stories of my kids, grandkids, life, people who annoy me and crafty things I do around the house and for the holidays!