When two people begin a relationship things are great, typically. Eyes are full of stars and hearts are full. Spending time together is all that matters...until that fateful day when......the friends arrive.
Suddenly there isn't just two people, but twenty. Ok, thats an exaggeration (maybe) but it feels like that sometimes. There are commitments to be kepts with friends, conversations, hanging out, going out and even God forbid..... trips!
For the most part its ok...for a while. Then suddenly there are 10 drunk men with plumber cracks showing up to watch the hockey game and clean out your refridgerator! With them come their significant others that the woman is supposed to entertain while the guys cheer and slap each other, no matter how much the woman can't stand those other women, she is expected to "play nice" while entertaining this interruption of her life.
This same woman who has friends of her own would kill for a trip to the mall for lunch with her best girlfriend or (dare I say it) a guy friend? OH NO! Not unless he has made it into the guy realm of friendship with her partner! Heaven only knows what a woman and a male friend might get up to in the mall!
This stereotype gets under my skin in a hurry. Where is it written that all men are created to be dogs, chasing after every skirt they see, sniffing womens butts and finally trying to get her to cheat with him? Yes, I agree that there are those who are that way and I believe its a stereotype ONLY. I have many male friends who are respectful, good, honest men that would no more encourage a female friend to cheat then they would cheat themselves! Why is that? Self respect. Maturity. Respect for others choices. Friendship.
I know I could ramble on for hours about the ins and outs of friendship between the sexes. Yes, it is possible to have a member of the oppisite sex as a friend. Yes, it is possible to be JUST FRIENDS with a past partner.
I read on Judes page all the time a saying that goes something like "Each friend represents a world within us that wasn't discovered until they arrived", mind you I don't know for sure thats how it went or even who said it but its true. Each friend brings something to our lives that fills those little gaps in our hearts where no one person could ever reach alone.
Why does it matter what sex they are? Why does the past history of the relationship matter to anyone but those who are friends?
My question of the day today is this......When two become one, why do both have to quit existing individually?
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