Battle of the sexes or just a game?

have a couple of different pages that I belong to and have belonged to for some time now. No matter my frame of mine when I log in to them it never fails to annoy the hell out of me on a couple of them.

Why?

When I log in I am inundated with friend requests, picture comments, mail and who knows what else and they all stem around the same things. “Your so hot”, “Your so pretty”, etc. it’s a bunch of crap and I know it. I may not be the prettiest girl out there but I am just an average girl in my opinion, although I do clean up alright on occasion.

The biggest annoyance with these people is this, they don’t know me at all. In my opinion to make a comment like that is so superficial and generic its stupid! Now I don’t fault these people for error of their ways, they are just trying to somewhere and that just happens to be not somewhere I am willing to go.

I also recognize that there are women out there that will fall all over themselves vying for this type of attention, I just happen to not be one of them. I sat for many years with a husband that said those empty words to women, who ogled every pretty female there was around and in the end I just couldn’t accept anything of that nature from him even if he did offer it.

I have watched women flaunt themselves with boobs a blazing and asses afire, why do they do that? I personally think its because they are so insecure that they need the reinforcement coming from the exhibitionism that they can’t seem to get anywhere else.

I know there are women who use their bodies for an income. This makes sense to me, however in my opinion it doesn’t exactly make it right. There wouldn’t be any of that if there weren’t the men around to utilize and feed that beast, it’s a life choice and I respect that. I admire the women who can do those sorts of things without losing their identity and self respect. I question how they do it, but I do respect it. Come on, really how could a person not respect it, it’s a great way to make huge sums of money without having to work a 40 hour week. I have heard that many only do it to achieve certain goals faster whether it be college, buying a home or some other significant thing in their life.

What I don’t understand is why men think all women are capable of that behavior and disconnect. We aren’t. We don’t all seek to be the center of attention of many men. We don’t all want to have men crawling, groping, pulling, complimenting and otherwise deeming us “sex objects”. No. No we don’t.

There doesn’t seem to be that many women who do accept this type of behavior but it does seem to be growing in numbers, or is it? Do the women who pretend to be like that really disconnect and what damage are they causing themselves with the lie?

Men are visual creatures, I understand that too. Women are emotional creatures, I know that all to well. So why do women put emotions aside and play on the visual part just to draw a man in and then complain when his eyes wander?

I decided many years ago that for a man to truly love me and for me to accept it as truth there were certain things that I would need for the confidence in the love and words he spoke to me. My advice on this, be careful what you wish for because you will eventually get it and I did. With that said that is the only time in my life that I ever felt truly loved, cherished, respected, adore... When he said he loved me, I knew it to be on a level that transcended the physical aspect and got right to my core, God help me its true.

So why do people settle and play the game that nobody will ever win? Why in this time of equal rights do women still play on the physical and visual needs to land a man?
Is it just me or does that seem to be a double standard?